Text messaging is one of the most powerful ways to flirt and build a relationship with a woman known to man. Unfortunately, many men are at a loss for how to properly leverage this technology and sweep a woman off her feel with the use of a cell phone and an unlimited text messaging plan. Today all of that changes….

To begin with, text messaging is the perfect way to flirt with a woman thanks to the latency in this technology. Since no message is sent until you type it out and hit the “send” button you have time to think and edit your message to your heart’s content. Perhaps you truly lack texting skills… do you have a friend with skills? Have him sit beside you and help you come up with some witty banter to set her heart ablaze and her head spinning.

A word of warning though: If the woman you are texting has a couple of guys that she is interested in who are texting her at the same time competition can be fierce. Put your game face on and get your skills sharpened or you will definitely be left behind while your princess rides off into the sunset with some other guy. With the help of this advice though, you should be well on your way to outperforming even the slickest of pickup artists.

Be Witty – It will be necessary for you to be witty and clever in your text messages. Be original and avoid all the lines that most guys use like “hey sexy” or “hey baby” or “hey beautiful”. Most girls have heard all of these a hundred times before. Think outside the box. Be goofy and make her literally laugh out loud. Off the top of my head, something random that might get a laugh would be, “my dog wants to know what you’re wearing…” Relax and have fun. Enjoy the detached nature of text messaging and be yourself.

Of course, once you have built a little rapport and gotten to the “pet name stage” of the relationship it is not only ok but encouraged that you send her regular text messages saying “hey sexy” or “hey beautiful”. Remember, text messaging is easy and quick so there really is no reason not to touch base with her at least in the morning and night once she has come to expect your messages. Failure to do so is one of the biggest that women have concerning a man’s text messaging prowess and shows a lack of attentiveness.

Put Her On The Hook – Text messages that can be answered with a simple yes or no simply will not suffice if you are trying to use text messages to flirt or build a connection. Before you send your text ask yourself if the question can be answered simply yes or no and if so reword your question so she will have to think a little bit more. Chances are that if she has a couple of guys that she is interested in the one that captivates her will be the one that she winds up spending time texting. If you are the one sending text messages that only require a yes or no answer she will probably wind up not answering and will tell you that her battery died, she fell asleep or she left her phone in the car or purse.

An example of a poor text message might be “I had a great time tonight did you?” First, this is very needy but also it can be answered with a simple “yes”. A clever way of rewording this would be “I had such a good time tonight I want to hit replay and do it all over again!” Of if the food was bad at dinner, “The appetizer was good but I think the urinal cakes in that place were better than the entrée.” And then you have an opening to ask for another date with “next time YOU get to pick the restaurant…and pay.”

Follow The Flow – Try to mirror or follow the flow of the conversation when you are texting. If she uses a lot of texting shorthand like “ur” for “you are” you can follow suit. If she uses proper English you should do likewise. Internet shorthand is falling out of style and many intelligent women will judge you by your spelling and grammar if you find that she doesn’t use internet shorthand. Knowing the difference between “there, their and they’re” is a common test.

Frequency – If she stops texting you or seems short in her responses during a conversation it could be that she is busy. Try not to be an annoyance. End the conversation on a positive note and tell her that you think she’s the coolest or that she’s the sweetest and that you have to run and that you’ll talk with her soon. Forcing a text conversation can make you appear needy and a bit stalkerish.

Work on your text messaging skills. In this day and age it is a part of dating and relationships that you simply can’t avoid. Burying your head in the sand and saying that texting isn’t for you simply won’t cut it. Once you get the hang of it you will find that it’s actually a very easy way to communicate with beautiful women while taking away all the things that used to make you nervous about talking on the phone in the beginning. Try using some of these tips and see how easy it really can be.

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